How Long Does it Take to Fall in Love? The Deep Truth
The poets say that the greatest thing we can achieve in life is to fall in love. This requires meeting the ideal mate and letting things develop.
Sometimes it can feel like it takes forever, even if we know it is worth the wait.
In this article, we’ll examine how long it takes to turn that spark of infatuation into a full-blown flame of love.
Cassie’s View
You can fall in love very quickly. I fall in love multiple times a day. I fall in love with experiences and articles of clothing, with the feeling of being in love while watching cheesy, romantic movies. This type of love is fleeting, however and will soon be forgotten when the next whim catches my fancy.
The true question is how long does is take to fall into deep and lasting love?
Can you Fall in Love on the First Try?
Is there such a thing as a one-and-done? Maybe on “Say Yes to the Dress”, and even then I tend to yell at the screen. Thousands of gowns at Kleinfeld’s, yet the bride is lucky enough to have chosen the exact right gown to try on first? She should have purchased a lottery ticket.
We all know, or have heard the urban legends, of couple who met as mere children and formed a deep and lasting love for one another without ever testing another partner’s waters. Just yesterday I heard of a couple celebrating their 80th wedding anniversary, which is an enormous and commendable accomplishment, for certain. When asked the secret recipe of marital success, the response was to learn to tolerate each other. I digress.
Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, but I believe it is important to experience relationships to truly understand yourself better.
How can you fully know what you need in a soulmate until you learn what you don’t need?
In learning what you can offer a partner, you build confidence and a sense of self. Not least of this is experiencing heartbreak and loss which fosters strength and the ability to appreciate what you have.
How Long Does it Really Take for a Woman to Fall in Love?
A woman needs three things to fall properly in love:
- Trust. A woman needs to know that her partner is worthy of giving her whole self to. This is not simply about a physical act, but in sharing pieces of herself that make her feel vulnerable. A woman is a creature of many secrets and mysteries. It takes the right partner to be offered the key.
- Intellectual Stimulation. Although it is fun to sometimes dabble in relationships that have no viability, a woman needs a partner she respects in order to fall into the type of love that will last. This involves having a mate who treats her well, is able to communicate with her, and can offer her a lifetime of rewarding experiences. Compatibility is everything.
- Physical Connection. It has been said that from the first kiss a woman decides whether or not it will go further. I find this to be a rather shallow view of physical intimacy. It is ideal if there is an initial spark, but there does not absolutely have to be one. With all other aspects, this can take time to develop. Once trust has been fully established, a deep and satisfying physical connection can also be nurtured; far more fulfilling than any fleeting fling.
These three components take time.
Have Your Own Schedule
Each woman will have her own timetable as to how long she needs to properly develop each facet. This process should never be rushed.
To have a fulfilling and happy life, one must never feel they are simply tolerating their partner. That might be considered a successful marriage by today’s standards, but it is not a successful love story. One thing the aforementioned couple — and others like them — have done correctly, however, is put in the time.
To answer the question of how long it takes for a woman to fall in love, the answer is simple: a lifetime. To do this properly, a woman should fall more in love with her partner everyday. If a relationship is well tended to, the love will also deepen and grow. This is not the kind of fleeting love felt for high heels or sunny days. This is the kind that so many long for. The good news is that it is not out of reach.
Nick’s View
We’re all in a hurry to live our best lives. The surest path to doing that is to fall in love.
This has been known from the earliest times, as evidenced by how prominently it features even in the bible. For example, 1 Corinthians 13:13 states:
And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love.
This pursuit of love is one of the primary driving forces for all of humanity. The challenge is that it can take plenty of time.
How Fast Can You Fall in Love?
The period of time when you’re falling in love with someone can be the most intense period of any relationship. It’s when emotions are running high and feel fresh.
It can take the average person anywhere from two to six months to fall in love. While there is no exact science to it as all relationships are different, this is a rough guideline. It represents the period of time from meeting your beau to the point of being certain it is true love.
There are two key factors that determine the speed of finding romantic love:
- Attachment styles. If you have a secure attachment style, you will be more likely to demonstrate confidence in a new relationship. This can lead to a shorter period to reach your relationship goals.
- Finding the right mate. If you’re ready for a deep commitment, but you can’t find a partner with the same goals, it’s going to be tough to make it work.
In other words, it comes down to being emotionally capable, along with having someone worth loving.
How Do You Know You’re in Love?
It’s one thing to have strong feelings of intimacy, quite another to feel romantically bonded to your partner.
There are many clear signals that you’re feeling deep and lasting love. From my personal experience, these are a few of the best ways for me to know I’m in love:
- I love doing anything and nothing with her. It doesn’t matter to me if we’re going to concert, on a romantic vacation, or just chilling on the couch. All of our time together is precious for me.
- I want the best for her, always. Life isn’t just about what’s good for me. I include her in my decision making and thought processes, making sure we’re always on the same side.
- She’s in everything. Whenever something happens, I want to share it with her. Big and small events trigger me to think of how she’ll respond to it when I tell her.
- It’s more than sex. While physical attraction is a huge part of initiating a relationship and even sustaining it, it can’t be everything. What I feel for her is both physical and emotional.
These are the moments that might help you recognize that you’ve fallen in love. It’s not just one thing alone, but really all of them together that will give you the biggest tell.
Final Thoughts
It may be a cliché, but you will definitely know you’re in love when it happens.
Remember that a romantic relationship that lasts long-term is about enjoying the time together. After all, if you’re going to be spending decades together, you need to actually like the person, also. That’s what will keep you together as friends even when the going is tough.
Even if you can fall in love in only a few months, that connection will still deepen over the course of decades. If you’ve got the right partner and you treat them well, that’s the best part of life.
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